The most important relationship you will ever have is with YOU! A Valentine's Day Special

Valentine's Day is a day when lovers express their affection with chocolates, roses and useless teddy bears holding hearts with funny quotes.

Don't get me wrong, I love a cute teddy bear but I've never been a huge fan of Valentine's Day due to a number of reasons:

  • the unnecessary pressure to have a significant other to celebrate with

  • the belief that how many long-stem roses your partner gives you determines how much they love you

  • the price increase on my favourite chocolate!

All in all, it kind of feels like another unnecessary day for companies to get us to spend money on things we don't really need. However...


Make Valentine's Day your own & boycott societal norms

Valentine's Day can seem superficial (hence my unwillingness to celebrate) but why not make the day your own?

I'm using today as a reminder to reach out to my best girlfriends, my sister and mum to remind them of how much I love and value their friendship.

While I love and appreciate my fiance, I see him every day and it's important to remember that our partners are not the only important relationships we should value in our lives - maybe most importantly remembering the importance of the relationship we hold with ourselves.

The most important relationship you will ever have is with YOU!

While I'm going to enjoy a nice dinner with my fiance for Valentine's Day, I'm also going to use today to nurture my relationship with myself and I encourage you to do the same!

Here are some ways to nurture your relationship with you:

  • No negative self-talk today! Or ever, if you can help it but I'm a realist, so no negative self-talk today at the very least.

  • Make decisions for yourself. Before answering "whatever you feel like" when asked what you feel like for dinner, really sit with yourself, what would you like? Make decisions for in life for yourself.

  • Practise gratitude. Consider meditation, yoga, going for a mindful walk with no other purpose than to enjoy the scenery. Or write down 5 things in your life that you're grateful for.

  • Stop judging others and their relationships. If you're doing it to others you're most certainly doing it to yourself, be mindful of your thoughts.

  • Don't be afraid to spend time alone. If you don't have a Valentine that is more than ok, don't be afraid to go to dinner, enjoy a movie or a nice warm bath alone.

It takes time and effort to build a strong and healthy relationship with yourself but it's crucial for your overall wellbeing. It's also a great foundation for your other relationships.

Remember, if you're feeling lonely or sad this Valentine's Day, I want you to remember that your self-worth is not attached to your romantic relationships. The most important relationship you will ever have is with YOU!

Your body is your home so show it some love today.

Be kind to yourself and if you don't have a Valentine, let it be me! Come and say "hi" over on Instagram @bybrookelindsay.

Lot's of love, and have a beautiful day.

Brooke x

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