Comparing ourselves to others is a relatively easy trap to fall into. Especially when we start scrolling through Instagram looking at someone else's highlight reel (because that's what it is) it becomes a hotbed for comparisonitis.
You'll start to compare other people's strengths to your weaknesses and before you know it, you're wondering why you're not in front of the ferris wheel at Coachella like YouTuber Gabbie Hanna... *spoiler alert* she wasn't actually there, but, everyone thought she was!
This is a prime example of why social media is not a fair comparison but we do it anyway... why?
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” —Theodore Roosevelt
Despite your accomplishments or age, you will continue to compare yourself to others even when you know it's destructive and pointless because subconsciously you want to know what's going on in other peoples lives.
You will compare yourself to reduce your own uncertainty and to learn how you want to define yourself. "Ok, so how do I stop comparing myself to others?" you ask... here's how.
Bring More Mindfulness into Your Life
Social comparison is often done without even realising it, so we need to become aware of when we're having thoughts of comparison.
You can do this by bringing comparing thoughts to the forefront of your mind and recognising these thoughts as negative. This will allow you to become more aware of when these thoughts arise for you and how to eliminate them.
Realise That Social Media is an Illusion
Comparing yourself to others on social media will only lead to self-doubt and irrational thoughts. Social media is an allusion (as we discussed earlier) but when you believe that it's real, you're more likely to fall victim to gimmicky ploys that are sold to you.
Gimmicks like waist trainers and skinny teas are something you would never be tricked into buying when you're confident in who you are. You can practice the following steps to help you break the habit of comparing yourself to others.
Have a social media detox
Avoid stalking people online
Unfollow social media accounts that trigger unhealthy comparison
Follow social media accounts that uplift you
Be supportive of others (online and in real life)
Work on yourself by practicing self-love and self-care
Enjoy a Social Media Detox
Social media especially Instagram is full of edited and filtered to perfection images that may trigger you to start comparing yourself to others.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with having a beautiful, curated feed and inspiring others with our imagery, yet, it can cause destructive thoughts if we start to believe this is real life.
Take a day or two off of social media, delete the apps on your phone to focus more on the people in your life and refocus on what YOU want from life.
Be Supportive of Others
There’s nothing more empowering than women building each other up (or anyone building up anyone for that matter).
It can be easy to become and remain jealous of what someone else has or does that you want, but you will start to feel a thousand times better when you start to change your mindset towards others.
When we stop looking at others as competitors or threats to us we can start to see them as motivational or inspiring we can realise that building others up doesn’t take away from you or your success, it only adds to it.
For more, watch this video on how to stop comparing yourself to others.
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